Happy New Year! Or is it? Have your resolutions begun to lose momentum? If so, perhaps they come from a negative foundation. Like ‘I’m bad, I need to stop doing this’ or ‘Why can’t I be more like so and so?'
Instead, maybe we should base them on habits and beliefs that are already working for us. Let’s look at resolutions in a new way by reflecting on what went right last year. Wouldn’t that be more motivating?
Lyn Christian, founder of SoulSalt Inc, suggests we reflect upon last year using a series of questions. Then, once a month review the list of suggested questions and make notes about how we might answer the same questions at the end of this year.
Some Guiding Questions to Complete and Remember the Previous Year (a partial list)
What was your biggest triumph this past year?
What was the smartest decision you made this past year?
What one word best sums up and describes this past year’s experiences?
What was the greatest lesson you learned in the past year?
What was the most loving service you performed this past year?
What is your biggest piece of unfinished business in this past year?
What else do you need to do or say to be complete with the results of the past year?
Some Guiding Questions for Creating a better New Year
What would you like to be your greatest triumph in the coming year?
What advice would you like to give yourself this coming year?
What is the major effort you are planning to improve your financial results in the coming year?
What would you be most happy about completing this new year?
What are you most committed to changing about your work and improving during this year?
What is one undeveloped talent you are willing to explore in the coming year?
What brings you the most joy and how are you going to do or have more of that in your life this year?
Who or what, other than yourself, are you most committed to loving and serving this new year?
Another alternative to making resolutions, is to have a 'theme' for the year. Just pick a theme and allow it to guide your words, thoughts and deeds. Christine Kane's free Word of the Year Discovery Tool has a list of possible words you could explore. As she notes "many people know instantly which word resonates and for others a little contemplation is required. (she recommends that you choose just one, it gives you focus, but if you can't narrow it down then choose no more than three).
Possible Word of the Year
compassion delight generosity wealth gratitude abundance creativity willingness change growth freedom master kindness health presence acceptance courage confidence self-love action forgiveness trust patience friendship fun grace laughter exploration adventure openness awe awareness risk gentleness choice
As my theme, I chose gentleness. My wish is that you too will apply gentleness to all your insights and to the changes you want to make. Remember that reflection and focus can help you stay on track. If you veer off track, simply take notice and gently bring yourself back. Happy New Year!